”Inspire Us” with J. Paul Nadeau

As the host of the ”Inspire Us” podcast, my goal is clear: to curate engaging and transformative conversations that leave listeners feeling empowered and uplifted. Through intimate dialogues with individuals who have triumphed over adversity, setbacks, and disappointment, we uncover the secrets to their resilience and resilience. But that’s not all - as a podcaster, I’m committed to exploring various avenues to keep the flame of inspiration burning bright. That means not only delving into the personal stories of our remarkable guests but also tapping into the expertise of professionals in fields like mental health, wellness, relationships, conflict resolution, and effective communication. By sharing their insights and practical advice, we aim to provide our audience with valuable tools to navigate life’s challenges with grace and strength. Our guests represent a diverse tapestry of backgrounds and experiences, showcasing that resilience knows no bounds. Whether they’re renowned experts or everyday heroes, their stories serve as a beacon of hope for anyone facing adversity. Through our collective journey of growth and self-discovery, we aspire to inspire not only ourselves but also individuals worldwide to break free from the chains of limitation and embrace the lives they truly deserve. In these uncertain times, it’s more important than ever to band together and support one another. Through the ”Inspire Us” podcast, we embark on a shared mission to conquer life’s obstacles and emerge stronger, wiser, and more inspired than ever before. Together, let’s infuse each day with a renewed sense of purpose and possibility.
Episodes
Episodes



Monday Aug 11, 2025
Episode 138: Choose your Life
Monday Aug 11, 2025
Monday Aug 11, 2025
🎙 Podcast Title: The Arena with Linda McLaughlinEpisode: 49 – J. Paul Nadeau: Choose Your Life
Summary:In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, host Linda McLaughlin speaks with J. Paul Nadeau — former police detective, hostage negotiator, international peacekeeper, keynote speaker, and author of Take Control of Your Life. Drawing from a traumatic childhood with an abusive, alcoholic father, a 30-year career in law enforcement, and several major life challenges (including divorce and a near-death encounter with terrorists), Paul shares his central message: we often become hostages to our own negative thoughts, but we also hold the key to our freedom by changing our mindset.
Key Themes & Insights:
Being a Hostage to Your Mind:Like a real hostage negotiator, Paul describes how people obey the “hostage-taker” of negative self-talk. Liberation begins with challenging and replacing destructive narratives.
Turning Trauma into Purpose:His childhood abuse, once a source of pain, became a driving force that led him into a career helping others — from arresting abusers to saving lives in crisis.
Life’s Setbacks as Gifts:Divorce, career transitions, and unexpected changes can be reframed as opportunities for growth and new experiences.
Profound Life Lesson:While on a peacekeeping mission in Jordan, Paul was nearly killed by insurgents but was saved by a man he later learned was a terrorist — solely because Paul had treated him with respect. This reinforced the importance of dignity in human interactions.
Living Courageously:Courage is about stepping beyond fear in every arena — physical, moral, social, intellectual — to pursue the life you want.
Responsibility and Choice:Your past does not justify harmful actions today. You are the product of your present choices, not your past suffering.
Mindset for the Present:Paul urges listeners not to live in the “poor me hotel” of the past or become overly fixated on the future. The present is the gift where change and joy happen.
Legacy & Impact:Paul aims to leave the world better through his writing, speaking, and personal example — inspiring others to believe, “Why not me?”
Notable Quotes:
"Nobody’s coming to rescue you… it’s up to you to make radical changes in your life."
"Some of the most beautiful things lie beyond our fears."
"The present is called the present because it is a gift."
"You are not a product of your past — you are a product of your choices."
Closing Message:No matter your current circumstances, someone has overcome something similar. Seek out solutions, surround yourself with positive influences, and make intentional choices to live an extraordinary life.



Sunday Jul 06, 2025
Episode 137 - The Hostage Effect: The Warning You’ve Been Waiting For
Sunday Jul 06, 2025
Sunday Jul 06, 2025
🎙️ Podcast Summary: The Hostage Effect – This Isn’t Just a Book. It’s a Warning.
Duration: 42 minutes
In this gripping, no-holds-barred episode, former hostage negotiator and international peacekeeper J. Paul Nadeau pulls back the curtain on the psychological warfare quietly eroding our freedom—from within.
You'll hear the chilling true story of two young boys locked in a cage, a moment that became the emotional heart of the book and a metaphor for the silent captivity millions are living under today. It’s raw, real, and unforgettable.
This episode dives deep into the meaning behind The Hostage Effect—how fear, media manipulation, division, and trauma have turned modern society into a battlefield for your mind. And more importantly, how to break free from it.
🔊 Whether you're feeling anxious, angry, helpless—or just numb—this conversation was made for you.📘 The paperback is now available.💻 The eBook is on sale for the price of a latte.🎧 Start with this episode. Then read the book. Then reclaim your freedom.
"They weren’t criminals. They were just boys. Locked in a cage. That moment broke something in me—and opened my eyes to what we’re all being trained to ignore."



Monday Dec 02, 2024
Episode 136: Dammit, Just Ask! - Mastering Negotiations with J. Paul Nadeau
Monday Dec 02, 2024
Monday Dec 02, 2024
Welcome to a podcast that promises to reshape how you approach negotiation and communication. Based on J. Paul Nadeau’s acclaimed book Dammit, Just Ask!, this series draws from Paul’s extraordinary career as a hostage negotiator and Special Victims Unit detective to deliver actionable insights and transformative strategies.
At its heart is Nadeau’s philosophy of “We, Not Me”, encouraging listeners to abandon confrontational tactics in favor of collaboration and connection. This mindset prioritizes respect and understanding, creating outcomes that benefit all parties involved.
Here’s what you can expect from the podcast:
1. The PIER Negotiation Method
Listeners will explore the PIER framework—Planning, Intent, Engagement, and Relationships—a step-by-step approach that turns complex negotiations into manageable conversations. Each element will be broken down with practical strategies to help you plan meticulously, clarify your intent, and engage authentically for lasting, meaningful relationships.
2. The Power of Relationships
Drawing from compelling stories, such as his transformative interaction with a young offender named Aaron, Paul highlights the power of establishing trust—even in the most high-pressure situations. Relationships are the foundation of successful negotiations, and this podcast reveals how to foster them effectively.
3. Active and Soulful Listening
True understanding goes beyond words. The podcast delves into techniques like active listening and Nadeau’s unique soulful listening, which focuses on uncovering emotions, motivations, and unspoken needs. By listening deeply, you can connect with your counterpart on a profound level, paving the way for mutual understanding.
4. Identifying and Addressing Pain Points
Learn how to identify and address your counterpart’s hidden fears and concerns—what Paul calls their “invisible nooses.” This client-focused approach not only builds trust but also encourages transparency, allowing for solutions that meet the needs of all parties involved.
5. Embracing the Power of Asking
The mantra is simple: “Dammit, Just Ask!” This podcast empowers listeners to overcome hesitations and ask for what they want, using well-planned strategies to increase their chances of success. Paul’s own experiences demonstrate how bold, effective asking can open doors to remarkable opportunities.
6. The PAID Technique
When faced with objections or heightened emotions, Paul introduces the PAID method—Pause, Assess, Identify, and Discuss. This technique offers a calm and constructive way to address challenges, maintain productive dialogue, and keep negotiations on track.
7. The SALES Acronym
Drawing from Chris Do’s SALES framework—Serve, Ask, Listen, Empathize, Summarize—the podcast equips listeners with additional tools to enhance communication and drive better outcomes, whether in professional negotiations or personal conversations.
Why Listen?
This podcast is more than just a guide to negotiation; it’s a masterclass in building trust, fostering connection, and achieving success with integrity. Whether you’re navigating high-stakes business deals or everyday challenges, Paul’s techniques will help you approach every conversation with confidence and purpose.
Prepare to be inspired, equipped, and empowered. With J. Paul Nadeau’s Dammit, Just Ask! podcast, you’re not just learning to negotiate—you’re learning to transform your approach to communication, relationships, and life itself.
Tune in, and let the journey begin!



Friday Nov 01, 2024
Episode 135: Take Control of Your Life book summary - Final Episode
Friday Nov 01, 2024
Friday Nov 01, 2024
The last Deep Dive in the 3 episode overview of Paul's book "Take Control of Your Life." In this series you'll discover:
Nadeau's Principles and Techniques for Reclaiming Control
Nadeau emphasizes that reclaiming control over thoughts and actions begins with awareness:
● Recognizing that negative thoughts can "take you hostage" mentally1 and understanding the difference between being physically held hostage and being hostage to your own thoughts1.
● Engaging in regular self-examination to understand your mental state, identifying what brings you happiness or unhappiness, and assessing your values, motivations, and fears23.
Once you are aware of negative thought patterns, you can use the following techniques to reclaim control:
● Developing a SEEMP (Self-Empowering and -Enabling Management Plan)4. Similar to an emergency management plan, a SEEMP helps you to systematically identify, mitigate, prepare for, and recover from negative thoughts and setbacks45.
○ Conduct a personal SWOT analysis to identify your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats6.
○Find ways to deal with negative thoughts and prevent them from "settling in," such as exercise, reading, spending time in nature, etc.6.
● Change negative associations to positive ones. By consciously replacing negative self-talk with positive affirmations, you can shift your perception of challenging situations and develop the motivation to take positive action78.
○ Reframe painful experiences by focusing on the pleasure associated with taking positive action78.
● Challenge negative beliefs and replace them with empowering ones. Nadeau encourages you to see yourself as "limitless" and capable of achieving your goals910.
○ Identify limiting beliefs that keep you feeling helpless and replace them with thoughts and actions that promote success11.
○Use affirmations to shift your mindset and remind yourself of your strength and worthiness12.
Nadeau argues that taking action is crucial for escaping negative thought patterns and achieving your goals:
● Don't dwell on the past. Acknowledge past experiences but focus on the present moment and the choices you can make to create a positive future1314.
● Make a conscious decision to change. Identify areas in your life that you want to improve and commit to taking specific, directed action151617.
● Develop positive habits. Consistent effort and action, even in small steps, are essential for achieving lasting change1819.
● Be persistent and adaptable. Accept that setbacks and failures are part of the process and be willing to adjust your approach as needed1719.
Nadeau also emphasizes the importance of gratitude and faith in maintaining a positive mindset:
● Cultivating gratitude helps shift focus from what is lacking to the abundance already present in life20.
● Having faith can provide strength and resilience during challenging times, allowing you to persevere towards your goals21.
By implementing these principles and techniques, you can move beyond self-sabotaging behaviors, reclaim control over your thoughts and actions, and live a more fulfilling life22.
To purchase the book or hire Paul as a speaker, follow this link:https://www.jpaulnadeau.com/



Wednesday Oct 30, 2024
Episode 134: Unlocking Your Potential: A Journey to Self-Empowerment
Wednesday Oct 30, 2024
Wednesday Oct 30, 2024
Welcome to part two of our deep dive into J. Paul Nadeau's transformative book, "Take Control of Your Life." In this episode, we delve into chapters two through five, where Nadeau provides practical tools and techniques to break free from self-sabotaging behaviors and mental prisons.
Explore the power of self-examination, as Nadeau shares personal stories and insights that highlight the importance of recognizing internal obstacles. Discover the profound impact of simple acts of kindness and the necessity of aligning actions with personal values.
Learn about the SEEMP (Self-Empowering and Enabling Management Plan) and how SWOT analysis can help you prepare for internal struggles. Embrace the idea of taking ownership of your choices to move from feeling like a victim to feeling empowered.
Nadeau's compelling narrative offers a roadmap for self-improvement, emphasizing resilience, gratitude, and the power of choice. Join us as we uncover the steps to unlocking your potential and creating a life of purpose and fulfillment.To purchase the book, follow this link:https://www.jpaulnadeau.com/



Wednesday Oct 30, 2024
Wednesday Oct 30, 2024
Welcome to the inaugural episode of our deep dive series, where we explore the profound insights of J. Paul Nadeau's "Take Control of Your Life." This episode sets the stage by delving into the foundational concepts laid out in the early sections of the book.
Join us as we discuss Nadeau's unique perspective, drawing from his extensive experience as a former investigator, hostage negotiator, and international peacekeeper. We highlight the core message that it's not what happens to us, but how we respond that defines our journey. With practical examples and real-world wisdom, Nadeau illustrates how we can reclaim our power and reshape our lives.
We explore relatable case studies that demonstrate how our thoughts can hold us hostage, and discuss the importance of self-examination and creating a Self-Empowering and Enabling Management Plan (SIEMP) to break free from negative patterns. Discover how the messages we receive, both external and internal, shape our beliefs and how we can cultivate a more positive mental environment.
This episode is just the beginning of our exploration into how we can take control of our lives by choosing empowering thoughts and actions. Stay tuned for more insights and strategies in our upcoming episodes.
To purchase, follow this link: https://www.jpaulnadeau.com/



Tuesday Oct 29, 2024
Tuesday Oct 29, 2024
In this captivating episode of Deep Dive, we explore the multifaceted life and work of J. Paul Nadeau, a former police officer, hostage negotiator, international peacekeeper, actor, and author. Known for his compelling storytelling, Nadeau shares insights from his incredible journey, revealing how his experiences have shaped his unique approach to life and work.
We delve into Nadeau's unexpected foray into acting, driven by a high school drama class and his daughter's encouragement, and how he managed to balance this passion with a demanding career in law enforcement. His resilience and adaptability shine through as we uncover the pivotal childhood experience that set him on his path to helping others.
The episode highlights Nadeau's revolutionary approach to hostage negotiation, emphasizing empathy and human connection over dominance. He shares a remarkable anecdote illustrating how a simple question, "What are you afraid of?" can transform a high-stakes situation by building trust and understanding.
We also discover how Nadeau applies these principles to sales, using the iconic "Miracle on 34th Street" as a metaphor for prioritizing genuine connection over transactions. His framework, encapsulated in the SALES acronym, underscores the importance of service, asking, listening, empathizing, and summarizing in all interactions.
Nadeau's experiences as a peacekeeper in Jordan further underscore the power of empathy and human connection, even amidst potential danger. A harrowing encounter with insurgents highlights how his commitment to treating everyone with dignity and respect saved his life.
Finally, we explore Nadeau's "Reset" concept for mental well-being, advocating for self-care and the courage to ask for what we want. His story of reaching out to a famous actor to star in a film based on his life exemplifies the transformative potential of just asking.
This episode is a testament to the universal truths that bind us all: the power of human connection, the importance of empathy, and the profound impact of approaching life with authenticity and kindness.For the full episode of the podcast, go to:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mZsKSrj3Ov4



Thursday Oct 24, 2024
Episode 131: The Power of Reset: Navigating Life's Challenges with J. Paul Nadeau
Thursday Oct 24, 2024
Thursday Oct 24, 2024
Ever wish you could hit a reset button on your brain when life throws curveballs your way? In this episode, we explore the concept of mental reset with insights from J. Paul Nadeau, a renowned hostage negotiator who knows a thing or two about handling high-pressure situations. Nadeau shares how his experiences have shaped his views on mental wellness, offering practical advice on how to regain control of your reactions during challenging times. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and provides simple, yet powerful mantras to help shift your mindset. Discover the empowering concept that you're the architect of your own experience, and learn how to apply reset techniques in everyday life. Whether it's a quick mental refresh or a deeper system update, this episode will equip you with the tools to face adversity with resilience and strength.

Inspire Us - with J. Paul Nadeau
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